Abuse survivor running for awareness

Abuse survivor running for awareness

In the next 45 minutes, police will have been called to at least one domestic violence incident.

About 14 women are killed by their partner or ex-partner every year.

Today on White Ribbon Day, a victim of abuse told her story to 3 News to encourage other women living with it.

For so long, Kahira-Rata Olley prayed for survival.

She prayed the beatings would stop and the sexual abuse would end. She prayed she'd get out alive.

"I was physically dying," Ms Olley says. "When you are being told you are the reason you're getting a hiding and you start to believe it, you know something is not right there."

She was sexually abused by a family member from the age of seven. Later, she was physically abused by her partner.

That lasted nearly 15 years, until she decided she'd had enough and walked away.

"I'm a proud survivor," Ms Olley says. "I've gotten over all these things I've experienced, I've got a great relationship with my children – I'm no-one's victim."

Now the 45-year-old grandmother is sharing her story, hoping it will encourage others to share theirs.

Over the next five days Ms Olley's running 250km for her campaign Running to Stop It, going from her home to Flaxmere, where she endured most of the abuse.

"Life is beautiful," she says. "Everybody deserves to live a wonderful life. Nobody should have to accept being abused or rubbished.

"If you're living in an environment where you are unsafe or being harmed, there is light at the end of the tunnel. I'm proof of that."

Ms Olley has since forgiven her abusers.

Over the next few days she will be supported and joined by whanau and Rotorua police, who will run alongside her.

Every year, 14 women in New Zealand are killed by their partner or ex-partner and 3500 domestic violence-related convictions are recorded.

This year, White Ribbon campaigners are asking people to say yes to respectful relationships, and to say no to violence towards women.

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