Sexologist explains some of our secret sexual hangups

It sounds like a self-proclaimed title that awful guy in high school made up, but in fact, sexology is a very real and very important profession - and it isn't as scandalous as the title might suggest. 

According to academic website The Conversation, sexology is the interdisciplinary scientific study of human sexuality, including sexual behaviours, interests and function. A sexologist is a trained professional who specialises in human sexuality.

Often working with patients in a clinical setting, a sexologist can also explore areas of sex research or education. 

They can help with insecurities, libido, pain (emotional or physical) during sex, connection - essentially a whole host of sexual hangups sometimes we're too shy to talk about. 

Even I - a co-host of a sex and relationships podcast - have a fair few. 

That's why on this week's episode of Newshub podcast The Snack, we spoke to Morgan Penn, who is in training to become a sexologist herself. Along with her friend Sharyn Casey, she's dishing out knowledge on their new podcast The Trainee Sexologist. 

You can listen to the crossover episode here. 

Penn helped fellow The Snack host Mon and I get some clarity around our own sexual hangups. In my case, it was a hesitancy around oral sex she says is perfectly normal. 

"I think we've got it a little bit wrong as a society, in terms of how we isolate genitals," Penn observed. 

"I think there's so much pressure, especially with the porn culture, that we're gonna get down there, and we're going to love it."

She said it's about breaking down the act of something like a blowjob into smaller, easier to manage parts. 

"I think if you incorporate the whole body with a non-agenda-ed outcome of what's going to happen with him - the build-up is the biggest thing," said Penn.

"It's anticipation. So if you start it behind the ears and move all the way down the body. I reckon you leave the actual genital touch as long as you can, so you touch everything else first. "

Penn also said she's learnt it's important not to take sex too seriously - something that which goes back to our schooling (doesn't it all?). 

"This is really common in our sex lives and societal conditioning," she said. 

"The only kind of [sex] education we get, it's very serious, and it's about sexual health, it's not about healthy sexuality. It's meant to be fun!"

She had a slightly unconventional way of getting giggling. 

"The best place to start is orgasmic yoga, where you put aside 30 minutes for yourself, you set an intention - so it might be, I want to giggle, or I want to have fun with myself. And you don't even have to masturbate or touch your genitals, but you're just with body, and you're touching, and you're being." 

So there you go - a little orgasmic yoga, anyone? 

Join us for The Snack podcast, where Sarah Templeton and Monika Barton talk all things love, relationships, dating and of course, sex. 

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