Bride and groom bizarrely rank wedding guests into groups on invite

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The bizarre wedding invites shocked the internet. Photo credit: Getty.

There's no doubt the COVID-19 pandemic has made things tough on couples planning to get married this year and a lot of adjustments have had to be made. 

But that might not be a good enough excuse for a bizarre wedding invite that ranks potential guests in order of desirability and is doing the rounds on Twitter. 

New York woman Marie von Aue posted a photo of an unusual notice that alongside a wedding invite, kickstarting a heated debate online. 

"This was included in an actual wedding invitation," wrote von Aue. 

Headed with the title 'Important Notice', the note divides people up into three groups based on how close they are to the bride and groom. 

"Dear friends and family," the notice reads. "Please understand our venue is limited in the number of guests we will be able to accommodate for our wedding day. 

"As much as we would love to have each and every one of you join us on our big day, we are forced to split our guests into groups to ensure we do not surpass our capacity restrictions."

Group A was asked to "RSVP as soon as possible" while Groups B and C were told to "keep a close watch on our wedding website for notice that we have space available".

The happy couple also requested parents "hire a babysitter" for the day, as well as asking "single guests to forgo their plus one if possible". 

Von Aue was lucky enough to be in group A, but replies on her tweet pointed out that perhaps by sharing it, she'll be demoted to Group C. 

The tweet has racked up almost 4000 replies, with commenters unable to believe the audacity of the request. 

"This is a no-brainer. Take my name off your list, don't expect a wedding gift, don't send me Christmas cards and lose my email address and cell phone number," wrote one person in a tweet that's racked up over 1000 likes. 

"Don't call, don't write, no need to keep in touch. Don't want to see wedding pics or any future kid pics."

"I don't care what anyone else here says, you don't invite more than the capacity of the venue," wrote another. 

"My fave part is 'please keep a close eye on our website for availability'. Like you're that special that someone is checking your site constantly!" another wrote. 

But others stuck up for the couple, pointing out that in these unpredictable times, plans and allowed numbers might have changed.

"This just seems like someone trying to pare a big wedding down to a small one where an unpredictable amount of close friends and family might say no. I don't envy these people and I think the comments here are crappy," wrote one person. 

A spokesperson for US wedding company The Celebrant Society told Bored Panda it's a "very unique time for everyone right now".

"Guests should really try to understand that couples are trying their hardest to follow guidelines, recommendations, and instructions from their venues and vendors while also trying to celebrate their union. 

"It's a time for everyone to try their hardest to be understanding, compassionate, and flexible."