New study reveals state of trans-Tasman sex lives: Who lasts longer, who's orgasming?

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A trans-Tasman sex survey has yielded results which may surprise you. Photo credit: Getty.

A new trans-Tasman sex survey has revealed exactly who lasts longer in bed out of Australians and New Zealanders - and it's sure to get a lot of Kiwis hoping the trans-Tasman bubble is announced soon. 

Market research company UMR asked 2500 respondents across both countries how long they typically last during sex. Around 57 percent of Aussies said they have sex for 10 minutes or longer on average, while only 52 percent of Kiwis do. 

One in three respondents have sex for 10 minutes or less on average, and they're more likely to be Kiwi men.

The study also revealed some interesting generational differences between sex lives, including that the Silent Generation (those born from 1928 to 1945) and Baby Boomers (born from 1946 to 1964) have more quickies. They are more likely than any other generation to have sex for less than five minutes. 

Generation X (those born from 1965 to 1980) is more likely than other generations to have sex that lasts over 30 minutes. One in 10 said over 30 minutes of sex is normal.

But one in four of all respondents said 10-15 minutes is the ideal length of time for sex, while 19 percent of respondents felt 15 to 20 minutes is the ideal length of time.

The orgasm gap 

With less time spent on pleasure during sex, only one in three respondents said they orgasm every time they have sex. Unsurprisingly, they are more likely to be men.

Almost half of New Zealand and Australian men say they orgasm every time they have sex (49 percent each), while only 16 percent of women orgasm during sex.

Head of customer satisfaction at Adult Toy Megastore Sophie McGrath says the orgasm gap is a well-known phenomenon, but it seems particularly wide in New Zealand and Australia based on the survey.

"It's very sad to see only 16 percent of women are having orgasms during sex," she says. 

"The hope is that once the problem is acknowledged, people will work on it together. In every aspect of our lives we believe in health - but for some reason, there isn't a focus on a healthy sex life."

McGrath says we need to "ditch some of the Victorian-era attitudes we have around sex". 

"The more we talk about sex the better - we need to discuss pleasure and how important it is.

"It would be great to see people openly talking about the orgasm gap so the stigma is removed. There's nothing broken about you if you can't orgasm, it's about communication with your partner and trying new things."