The family have lived with grief and frustration for over a decade.
Demand for the charity's services is at an all-time high, with family harm incidents rising in the last five years.
They have been sent to the Ministry of Education by a group lobbying for more instruction around consent.
But Darryl Smith left furious no one would come outside to receive it.
Minnie Baragwanath believes it's time New Zealand becomes the most accessible country in the world.
"I talked to my family yesterday, they have asked me not to go."
But the event organiser isn't apologising.
Thursday's shooting was brought up during the discussions on countering hate and promoting tolerance.
The risks of drink spiking were recently highlighted by the Mama Hooch case.