A woman is refusing to have a second child after her husband won't take leave from work because it isn't the "norm" with his employers.
The woman who shared her story anonymously on Reddit said that she and her husband want to have another child, but she doesn't want to take time off work having used up all her maternity leave.
The conversation has now escalated, with the husband branding her as "toxic" according to the Mirror, but after sharing her decision on social media many people agree with her.
One user said: "I am so sorry that he has you doubting yourself. He is apparently willing to make no sacrifices, while you must get pregnant, give birth, coordinate care for both children while working when you don't want to.
"But you are the toxic one, hm. Complete and utter bullshit."
"Just to be clear" another user added. "It's reasonable to refuse to get pregnant for literally any reason at all! Like 'cost of childcare' and 'just don't feel like it' are both completely valid reasons not to get pregnant."
The woman is strong in her stance about not wanting to have a second child, citing childcare and their first child as reasons.
"My husband really wants another baby, I do too, but I have zero maternity leave, and he won't take leave because it's not the 'norm' at his work," she told Reddit. "Plus, I want to be home with the child I birth.
"So, last night I flat out told him that we would only be having a baby if I could be a stay at home mum until Kindergarten this time around.
"Childcare is a nightmare, plus I'd have to balance that and Lo's school day, and I'm flat out refusing to put myself out like that anymore when he does the bare minimum of childcare.
"He told me I have a toxic attitude about it and walked away. I don't feel like that's toxic, but maybe it is?
